The word sex: Frummies can’t say the word sex, in fact they have about ten other words to avoid using the word. Instead of sexual relations, they just say relations. Lucky for them most yeshiva guys don’t go into PR – or else they would have a problem. Sometimes they say bia, other times they say “knew” or “lived with.” I guess one night stands are considered living with by some standards. I always considered living with as in moving in – but the frummies had something else in mind.
College: Frummies will do anything to get out of college. They will go the BTL (bachelors of talmudic law) or they will get a scam degree from Charter Oaks. The girls will get these medical billing certificates, or if they are desperate they will figure out how to get an associates with AP bais yaakov credits, but to many frummies, college is the downfall.
Working on the books: I myself didn’t really work on the books until college. It was definitely one of my fears as well. But most frummies I know will skip out on a job if they take out taxes, even my father groans when I say my job is not a cash job.
Mingling: I remember when girls and guys yeshivas would send out spies on Saturday night to avenue J to see if kids were talking to the opposite sex. I remember girls running away in Woodbourne when they saw people they know coming up the walk. It was a huge sin to get caught talking to the opposite sex. Now I wonder how some of these kids who were trained to be afraid of the opposite sex negotiate the shidduch scene.
Being seen on a date: Most girls hate to be seen on a date. I have no idea why but in the frummy world this is so. They will have you drag them somewhere strange in order not to be seen.
