Everybody in every relationship deliberately does things to hurt the ones they love (and hate). You can’t love someone without having a host of other emotions as well, including hate.
If you hate someone, it does not mean you can’t love them.
I hear this saying from women a lot: “I would never deliberately do anything to hurt you.”
It’s a lie.
Women are masters at appearing all sweet while simultaneously sinking their daggers into your psyche.
Until we can each acknowledge how much hatred we have for the other, we can’t make any progress.
It’s the same in all relationships. It’s true of my closest relationships with rabbis. I hated them and I loved them.
